Well here we are again to the day that people talk about love. The Hallmark channel is showing movie after movie about love and romance. I’m watching one as I type this. Jared’s, Kay’s and Zale’s are all on the commercials assuring men how to get their women to love them more…..give them diamonds. Restaurants and hotels have romantic getaway packages for the couple that needs a boost in their relationship. Red hearts are all over the media, in stores, and on people’s front doors. Women mostly hope that their guy remembers to get them a card about love and a gift that is personal and sweet. Love is in the air…….. or is it?
What is love? We throw that word out about so many things. I love carrot cake cookies from Trader Joes (and if you haven’t had them you should learn what decadent love is). I love football (that’s a statement for Tim). I love when there are bright orange colors in the sunset. I love a good romance movie or book. I love my grandson’s triple giggle. I love when my granddaughter twirls her skirt and dances. You know what I mean. We all have things that just make us glad we are alive.
But really if there is one thing that we all long for in some form or other, it’s Love….true, deep, intimate, fulfilling love. It’s the one emotion that gives us our greatest moments in life. It can change your life in moments. One minute you’re a single woman (fairly content with being independent) and then 3 dates later you are falling for a man’s heart. What the heck happens that love comes suddenly, surprisingly, softly, and sometimes confusingly? How do you know if it’s the real thing? Then along comes the proposal, then the marriage and so on and so on. Then according to statistics over 50% begin to show complacency within the first 2 years and taking the other for granted; life just consumes you and other things become more important until finally the realization that it’s not the same as the moment you said “I do”.
It’s not love that causes us pain, but the loss of it or the diminishing of the intimacy. Every marriage that stops fighting and working for the good of the other will experience the loss of connection. Or they may just experience nothing anymore except the hum drum of life….ugh. Good marriages settle for status quo and forget that they used to have a great relationship. Men want a great relationship as much as women, but neither quite knows how to get there.
Works of Heart Counseling is offering a Valentine’s Special Couple’s Review. What is this? It’s a chance to draw closer, a chance to re-commit and a chance to iron out wrinkles. Does your relationship deserve this chance? We are offering a 90 minute session with Tim and Patti Holt for $75.00. Call 719-321-4497 or 719-337-8593. The first 10 to book their session gets a gift. Have a happy and loving valentine’s day.